Stepping Back Into The Feminine

Wow, it’s been a crazy 3 years.

But I am finally coming up for air!

And stepping back into the Feminine once again.

And, with that, I am finally ready to reconnect with you all  ♥

So, where have I been?

Rewind back to mid-2022…

Suddenly, it seemed as if the fallout from Covid had caught up with me and my business – and finances were tight.  Orders from my biggest customer fell off without warning – and it became increasingly difficult to make ends meet each month.  I was keen to find online work of some kind – but nothing was seeming to present itself.

Then, a very dear friend of mine, whom I have known for over 25 years, offered me a part-time position working online – helping him to run the business development side of his herbal extract company.  The timing was just perfect – and, having established the ground rule that I would love to step into this role, provided it didn’t impact negatively on our friendship – I accepted and started working for him in December 2022.

The idea of only working part-time was so that I could still focus on my women’s work, as well as the herbal teas and tinctures business that I run with my husband.  And I honestly thought that I would be able to balance them all (I’ve always been an over-achiever ????!).

Having a keen interest in herbs and herbal medicine, the products I worked with in my friend’s company were interesting and I got to connect with some amazing people from all over the world.   Due to various factors/situations within the company, the role I took on then expanded into more of a general management role as well.  Something I am naturally good at, so handling my responsibilities wasn’t difficult for me and I was able to do the job well.

But what was difficult, however, was the bandwidth that the responsibility of running someone else’s company – one that was also very fast-growing, with many moving parts – demanded of me.  As well as the fact that doing the job that I did very much required me to be in my masculine.  Something I also do – and always have done – extremely well.

Hence my decision to focus on women’s work 10 years’ ago, so that I could explore and grow more into the feminine side of myself.

(Having said that, that’s not to say that I didn’t learn anything or expand further through the job I was doing – because there’s always something to learn and more growth to be had, in every new project we undertake).

And so, as time went on – my connection to the Feminine started to get pushed more and more into the background.

My self-care started to get neglected.  My creativity started to shut down.  The intimate connection with myself and my partner suffered.  I stopped offering online courses, because I simply couldn’t connect deeply enough or be present enough for the women who committed to work with me.

I worked too many hours – for which I was very well-compensated – but, even by throwing weekends into the mix, the workload continued to grow, along with the overwhelm.

I began to get worn out, both physically and mentally – and, at the end of my first year of working (2023), I ended up spending most of the Christmas break in bed with burnout.

By this time, I was struggling with my health on many different levels and, as well as a chronic lack of energy, was also experiencing ovarian cysts, insulin resistance, hormone resistance, hair loss, low libido, poor digestion, heart concerns, disturbed sleep and deteriorating tooth health.

All of which can be very common health concerns to experience as we go through menopause (as empowering a transition as that is).

I started to get more and more frustrated with the situation I found myself in.  I felt trapped – torn between earning a really good salary (which was such a relief on one level) – and being able to look after myself properly.  And to soften and relax and connect with my feminine side, who I could feel was calling to me, gently but persistently…

Then, in May 2024, a huge blessing fell into my life.

I discovered LifeWave’s amazing phototherapy patches – an incredible, innovative wellness technology, that uses the body’s own infra-red light to trigger its own natural healing processes. (You can read more about those, here)

Two weeks into using the patches, I left for the UK, to visit my mum, who at that stage had severe dementia – and I wanted to see her one final time before she made her transition (which she did, four months later ♥).  Normally, I would have found this trip extremely stressful, but, I noticed that my nervous system was, instead, remarkably calm – which I could only put down to me having started to use the patches.  Not calm, as in a disconnected, emotionless kind of way – I was fully present throughout my time spent there and with my mum – but I was also able to take everything in my stride and to show up fully as a result.

Not only that, but my energy levels had improved massively from the first or second day of wearing the patches.  Other health benefits soon followed.  To say these have turned my life around completely is a total understatement.  You can read the full story of my patching journey here.

After the UK, it was back to SA and my work.  By this time, I had made the decision to hand in my notice at the end of September, to finish at the end of the year – but, due to unforeseen circumstances within the company, which led to the departure of a key member of staff, the timing was clearly not right for me to also step out at that stage.

The rest of the year was even more intense – and the end of the year break couldn’t come soon enough!

Fortunately, the Feminine will not be silenced!

And so… She kept on knocking!

Which led to me, at the end of January of this year, once things at the company had settled down somewhat, to me handing in my notice.

I finished my job at the end of April – with an immense sense of relief (but also with huge gratitude for all that I gained over the past – albeit, rather insane! – 2.5 years).

Engaging with the Feminine again, has taken a bit of time, I must say.  It wasn’t as if I could just flip a switch and automatically restore the connection.  But I am getting there – and taking the leap that I did (and it wasn’t an easy one, even though it was absolutely essential) – has still created a profound shift in me.  I am starting to feel more like my true self again.  I am waking up excited and ready for the day.  I look forward to getting out of bed every morning and getting started on work that truly engages me, in every cell of my being.  And slowly, but surely, I am starting to step back into a routine that nurtures my body and brings joy to my soul.

So yeah. I am back.  And ready to engage with all of the beautiful women who find their way to this site and the practices that it is my honour and blessing to share with you all.

Stay tuned.  This is only the beginning!

With deepest love and gratitude  ????

Juliet xx

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