Those 2 words alone are enough to spark a hot debate about whether or not women can ejaculate, with some people absolutely adamant that this is just NOT possible and that if women do manage to produce any meaningful amount of liquid following vaginal stimulation that it just HAS to be pee….
Meanwhile, those of us on the other side of the room simply shake our heads and smile to ourselves…
When you know, you know.
So what’s the big deal?
So what is the big deal about female ejaculation or “squirting” as it is also known?
What does it feel like and why do so many women crave to be able to experience it?
And yet still struggle so hard to do so?
Can all women actually ejaculate – or is it really only for porn stars and the chosen few?
What are the factors that prevent ejaculation from happening and how can these be overcome?
And where DOES all of that liquid come from anyway – enough liquid to soak through several towels, trash the mattress, even hitting the walls and ceiling or causing a mini-tsunami on the bedroom floor at times?!
These are questions that I am going to do my best to address here – and will be covering in a lot more detail in my upcoming online course – the Amrita Journey.
History Of Female Ejaculation
There is evidence all over the world of ancient cultures being aware of the existence of female ejaculation – all of them viewing it as natural or normal and some of them considering it to be healing and sacred. The term “Amrita” actually means “nectar of the Gods” in Sanskrit and in the Tantric tradition female ejaculate was honoured as a sacred fluid. Female ejaculate, like male ejaculate, is made up of healthy, life-giving components such as hormones, vitamins and minerals – and those who understand this, also understand the power in drinking or “anointing” each other with these fluids as a natural part of lovemaking.
The Taoists also revered the “Third Water”, as they called female ejaculate (following on from the “First Water” – the lubricant that signals the beginning of arousal and the “Second Water” – the water of higher arousal and the beginning of orgasm). The Third Water then comes at the height of orgasm – “the river overflows its banks flooding the fields with life-giving nourishment!”
There are also extensive accounts of the acknowledgement and respect for female ejaculation in ancient Japan, among the Native American culture and even in the Catholic tradition of medieval Europe!
What Is Ejaculate & Where Does It Come From?
The G-spot is the female prostate – and, like the male prostate, it has glands that make ejaculate and ducts that expel it into the urethral canal. The female prostate is much smaller and longer than the male prostate, with numerous ducts and glands that are spaced out, over about 5cm, along the urethral canal. After ejaculate is expelled from the female prostate, it can either flow out of the body via the urethral opening (visible ejaculation) or it can flow back into the bladder (not visible – retrograde ejaculation) – which often happens if the pelvic floor muscles are not strong enough to expel the ejaculate outwards.
One of the reasons why there is a common misconception that female ejaculate is urine, is because no one expects anything but urine to be expelled from the female urethral canal (although everyone knows that this is indeed what happens in the male body – both urine and ejaculate being expelled from the urethral canal that runs through the penis) – as this particular aspect of female sexual function is just not taught widely enough (or, indeed, even known about most of the time). But female ejaculate contains prostatic fluid, not urine – and a simple taste test will soon prove to you that the sacred water you have just produced is definitely not pee!
Female ejaculate is a clear liquid, that differs from vaginal lubrication and urine. Initially there may be a little creamy white liquid emitted too – which is more like male ejaculate in both appearance and taste – but the vast majority of the ejaculate you produce will be clear and watery. Its taste and smell can vary according to where you are at in your menstrual cycle – at times it can be quite salty and strong in taste and at others it is sweet and light with no smell… Researchers have identified female ejaculate by using PSA (prostate specific antigen) as a marker – the same marker used to identify male ejaculate and the prostatic fluid it contains. Tests have shown female ejaculate to be predominantly made up of this prostatic fluid as well, with about 10% glucose and trace amounts of urine also showing up.
What Does Squirting Feel Like?
In a nutshell – it feels absolutely amazing – a highly pleasurable and profound experience, and an incredible way to release stagnant emotion, stuck trauma etc… It’s definitely one of my favourite sexual sensations/experiences. I find it empowering and liberating. And sharing the experience with a partner brings another level of surrender and vulnerability – and fun – into the bedroom – and the deepening connection that stems from this. I believe our ejaculate is a physical manifestation of releasing stuck emotional energy and the lightness that I feel after I ejaculate is tangible. Often, as we continue to stimulate the G-spot, more and more ejaculate is actually released – it’s almost as if we have “undammed” the wall holding back the flood of both fluid and emotions – so be prepared for some strong emotions to come up as you ejaculate too – this is not unusual! The G-spot is how we access our deepest emotions, so exploring it, particularly with a partner, can be an intense experience. Expect tears, laughter, rage, sadness, grief… the whole gamut of emotions can be brought out. But by opening ourselves to this experience we manage to release on such a deep level – which can really help us get rid of any built-up frustration and irritation, allowing us to soften and open ourselves to our partners – and to have a whole lot more patience and softness towards everyone else too!
Quantity of ejaculate being produced will vary from woman to woman – anywhere from a teaspoon to a cup to a litre – this depends on many factors and any amount of ejaculate is to be welcomed!
Women and men alike are fascinated by the concept of female ejaculation – perhaps because it is something that has, for some bizarre reason, been totally left out of all Western accounts of female sexual function. Because I don’t know about you, but I most certainly was never taught any of this in sex-ed class at school! This fascination with female ejaculation – along with the prominence given in porn videos to squirting – has lent female ejaculation an almost mythical, elusive reputation, with so many women wishing to experience squirting, but still only a minority ever having done so.
Blocks to Female Ejaculation
Despite the fact that every woman is capable of ejaculating, certain factors can make female ejaculation difficult:-
- Weak pelvic floor
- Unresolved sexual trauma
- Unresolved issues between you and your partner
- Sexual shame/poor body image
- Erroneous belief systems
- Diet & lifestyle
Fortunately, there are ways to overcome these blocks – and these will be covered in the Amrita journey, opening for registration very soon.
Every Woman Can!
Regardless of what anyone else might have told you, I believe that EVERY woman can have any kind of orgasm she wants to, PLUS ejaculate at will! Often, simply being told that you CAN is enough for your mind to relax – and your body to take over. Once you have experienced ejaculation for the first time, you may begin to see that there literally are no limits to anything we choose to experience sexually, other than those limits we choose to put on ourselves. The Amrita Journey provides some useful tools and practices that will not only get you gushing but also have you throwing any limited ideas of what is or is not possible for you sexually, out of the window once and for all! 🙂
These tools and practices include:-
- Homeplay – practicing ejaculation techniques and positions with yourself first, then with a partner if you choose. Guidance given for both.
- Learning to ejaculate both with and without orgasm.
- Pelvic strengthening exercises to allow/increase ejaculation.
- Physical & Emotional clearing exercises to allow/increase ejaculation.
- The Squirting Diet – Optimal Eating for Ejaculation!
- G-spot De-Armouring Massage.
- Welcoming & Documenting Your Ejaculation Journey.
- Weekly Zoom Calls – to ask questions and connect.
- Private GAB group – again, to ask questions and connect.
If this sounds like an experience you would be interested in, please add your name here to be informed when this course opens again for registration (next Journey begins Tuesday 15th June 2021).
Look forward to sharing this space with you ♥