Whether you’re choosing to release tension, clear traumatic memories, or tone your pelvic floor, a yoni egg practice involves both patience and presence.
A large part of the practice is learning how to listen to our bodies – and that starts with the decision as to whether or not our vaginas want to receive an egg or not – some days they do, some days they don’t – and we need to learn to honour that decision and trust that our vaginas really do know best about such things! And it hopefully goes without saying that this is true of putting anything inside/allowing anything to enter us – overriding the body’s decision on this leads to tension and armouring of the vagina which is definitely not the best way to unlock deep pleasure and connection.
When we start to honour the body like this, we are able to witness things about it that we may not have noticed/allowed/made time for before. One such wonder is how, when we learn to wait for the vagina’s own timing rather than force our will upon her, she will actually draw or “sip” something inside of herself, once she is ready to do so. (In this case, a yoni egg – but this can equally apply to a penis or finger too. The vagina also uses this same action to draw semen upwards to fertilise an egg in the uterus, should one be present).
This “Sipping” reflex is actually surprisingly powerful – and certainly took me by surprise the first time I experienced it! It reminds us that, as well as being designed to push things out of them, our vaginas are also designed to draw things inside of them. And that they do both equally well 🙂
Below follows a short guide to allowing “The Art of Sipping”…
First of all, you want to create a safe and sacred space for your yoni egg practice – one where you will not be disturbed for at least the next 30-45 minutes. Safety is key for deep relaxation – and deep relaxation is key for any pleasurable and fulfilling conscious sexuality practice.
Next you want to check in and see if your vagina is willing and open to receive a yoni egg at this time. Some days you might get a very clear “no”. If this happens, then you can still do your yoni egg exercises anyway, just without inserting the egg. You can hold your egg in your hand or place it on your womb instead if you would like to. Learning to listen to our bodies in this way is a vital part of cultivating more self-love, body awareness and wisdom. The more you listen, the more your body will talk to you.
If, on the other hand, you get a clear “yes”, take some organic macadamia, jojoba, coconut oil or organic lube of your choice, so that you can lubricate your egg if necessary and ensure that it can be inserted smoothly. When it comes to lube and oils, organic is important, as well as avoiding any lubricants that are petroleum-based or contain synthetic ingredients, colour and fragrances.
Taking consciously connected in-and-out breaths, start stroking your body, paying particular attention to your breasts, inner thighs, vulva, perineum and clitoris. Connect deeply with the experience of pleasure while touching yourself in whatever way feels good – connecting with your turn-on is essential in order to get the most out of this practice.
When you are ready, take the wide end of the egg and place it inside your inner labia, right up next to the entrance (entroitus) of the vagina. Hold the egg in place and continue breathing deeply. In time you will find that as you breathe out, your vagina will yawn open and, in doing so, create a vacuum that will actually begin to “sip” and draw the egg inside of itself. Enjoy this sensation, it can be surprisingly strong and radically awaken your pleasure pathways!
If you don’t find that your vagina is pulling the egg inside of itself yet, then you can gently push the egg inside until you get the hang of this “sipping” exercise. The more you practise, the easier you will find this happens.
With your yoni egg inside, once again just relax and breathe deeply, keeping your left hand on your heart and your right hand on your yoni. Take some time to do this, as your body creates sensate focus/ proprioception between your brain and your vagina. Because of its ability to restore communication between our brains and our bodies, creating sensate focus like this is incredibly powerful in bringing about deep relaxation of overstressed muscles and unwinding areas of tension. This is an exercise really worth spending a significant amount of time on – and is the very reason I recommend coming back to it at the end of each and every exercise during a yoni egg practice.
In my next blog I will have suggestions for a few of my favourite yoni egg exercises – so stay tuned!