Imagine a soft, seductive caress of a feather along your ribcage, inching its way down. Envision your lover’s touch, hovering above naked skin, teasing and enticing. Sense the deliciously sharp pull on your hair, drawing you into the erotic excitement and intensity of the moment. Indulge in the sensations as your whole body thrums with orgasmic waves: arousal, sex, satisfaction. Feel everything surrounding your senses, overwhelming in the most desired way, knowing you get to have it all.
These are the five Erotic Blueprints – Sensual, Energetic, Kinky, Sexual and Shapeshifter. They hold the keys to illuminating our erotic natures and distinctive paths of arousal. They are the added, or rather, innate layer that has the power to unlock sexual secrets, erotic interests and enticing turn-ons. They were founded by Jaiya, a somatic sexologist, through her hands-on study over many years of passionate research. Her concept has given countless people the tools to revolutionise their sex lives and intimate relationships, with themselves and their partners.
Our primary and secondary blueprints form a unique combination. It’s likely to find some blueprints more resonant than others, and possibly a few which trigger us in some way. However, each blueprint has a purpose. When we layer them, they form what is called a blueprint stack, which can, over time, adjust as we gradually integrate aspects of each.
Our lovers’ blueprints are not likely to match up with our own, and that is where both the growth and fun lie. If we compare the blueprints to languages, to open the pathway for clear communication, partners need only grasp each other’s vernacular. In this practice, we learn to embrace our blueprints and honour the others. When we get to talking about them, those conversations naturally lead to some flirtatious fun and memorable times.
As with any form of life, there is both yin and yang, dark and light – and the Erotic Blueprints are no different. They show us where we are stuck and limited, where we have formed habitual pleasure paths and where we’ve allowed societal norms to influence or shame our desires. Being aware of both the empowered and shadow sides of the blueprints provides us with a foundation for further growth and embodiment.
Let’s dive into each Erotic Blueprint:
Sensual
A Sensual’s arousal is doused in eros, and expands with the engagement of all five senses, in gentle, seductive ways. This sixth sense requests presence. Sensory excitement entices the Sensual – think scented candles, massage oils, a variety of textures brushing bare skin and mood-matching music. They enjoy the meander, the slow undress, hints at pleasure in alluring whispers or feathery caresses. They revel in full-body intimacy, being so close to someone that their touch engulfs and encompasses them.
When met with the same forwardness a Sexual would enjoy, Sensuals tend to short circuit and close down. Sensuals are more likely to get caught up in their head too much, easily distracted by their to-do list or the music volume. Their breakthrough and orgasmic potential lie in letting go of responsibilities and surrendering.
Energetic
Imagine a combination of hovering hands and a wicked grin, the promise of touch and the whisper of a kiss. An Energetic’s arousal is fuelled by anticipation and possibility, the in-between, the chasm separating thought and action. Think sensitive, slow warming with room to express and explore. Where Sexuals are turned on by high heat, Energetics are slow to simmer, they need space to yearn. The warmth of the sun or the intensity of a wickedly arousing stare can whet their erotic appetite. They are extremely sensitive, so it is only natural they are turned on by intent and presence – elements that are felt just as tangibly as a kiss. With their explicit imagination and heightened senses, they can experience orgasms without so much as a touch.
Energetics can become easily overwhelmed by sensations, their arousal quickly shoots straight down to zero when they short circuit. Their expansion lies in learning to stretch their orgasmic and pleasure potential. Like Sensuals, their minds draw them away from the moment, vocalising what they need and setting boundaries will empower them.
Kinky
Kink arises at the intersection of erotic excitement and the enticingly forbidden. There are two types of Kinky. Psychological kink involves power dynamics, control and surrender and the dynamic of masculine and feminine erotic energy. Spanking, being bound, hair pulling and safe words fall under the more physical form of kink. Those with this erotic blueprint gravitate to what is uniquely kinky to them in the vast array of turn-ons. It could be visibly sneaking off together in public, handcuffs and role play, or as Jaiya says, for some it might be anything other than missionary. Conscious kink is a route to a healthy mentality, clear communication, and the integration of sexual shadows.
Those with this blueprint prominent in their stack often experience deep levels of shame and repress their turn-ons. As we know, anything we resist persists and can manifest in destructive ways. Kinks can become fixated on one route to arousal and climax, and benefit when they embrace the fluidity of new pleasure pathways. They empower themselves in choosing to make peace with their shame and find self- and sexual acceptance.
Sexual
Picture the “I just have to have you right now,” need, with papers flying and clothes littering the floor in the mutual rush to satiation. The Sexual blueprint is ravishing, straightforward and fun. Untie the strings of everything elaborate and complex, and yes, of course, jean zippers and bra clasps too. There we’ll discover the naked truth – that orgasm, to a Sexual, is what restores them, empowers them and makes them feel alive. Their arousal revs from zero to sixty in a matter of seconds, with every kiss, touch, taste and moan coalescing toward the end goal of explosive pleasure and release. Orgasm is everything.
Sexuals can easily forget foreplay and become goal-oriented in their enthusiasm to climax. They don’t always grasp another’s desire for a more complex and involved sexual experience. Revelling together in the post-sex glow, exploring Tantra or breathwork and enjoying the journey are a few ways Sexuals can expand their erotic rapport.
Shapeshifter
Shapeshifters are the sexual embodiment of “have your cake and eat it too”. Their desire and its variations are encompassing and never-ending. Their appetite is satiated in layers, and as much as they enjoy the sensory overwhelm, their blueprint stack has a very particular order. Whilst in the “throes of passion”, a Shapeshifter might desire hovering hands, then sensory enticement with candles and music, and a bit of kinky foreplay before fully embodying their sexual blueprint. Another Shapeshifter’s order may be slightly varied or entirely the opposite. Their pleasure potential is magnificent.
Shapeshifters can seem a little erratic in their desires, not knowing what turns them on and needing constant changes throughout their intimate experiences. They tend to feel ashamed of their needs, the intensity and broad-spectrum can feel overwhelming to themselves and their partners. It is when they recognise their blueprint that they can then explore their unique layering and enjoy never-ending pleasure.
Take the quiz and discover your Erotic Blueprints here. For more information, Jaiya hosts the Erotic Breakthrough Course, or you can find Jaiya’s guest appearances across multiple podcasts and interviews.
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