(Art: Alice Haibara)
If you have been following me for some time now, you will know that I am a huge advocate for women taking back control of their own sexual health and happiness. After all, that is what this website is all about!
And today I want to talk about why I consider that to be so important and – without wishing to dwell too much on the negative side of things – also outline the reasons I am so wary of the conventional medical system as a whole. And why I believe so strongly in yoni wisdom instead. (Note – when I use “yoni” in this context, I am using it in the wider sense of the word – to not only include the vagina and womb together but also “feminine creative force” or the “creative power of nature”).
First off though, please understand I am not advising you never to consult a conventional medical doctor – certainly do so, if that is what feels right to you in your particular situation at the time. I simply mean being extremely selective over the kind of doctor you consult – and to ask a LOT of questions and do your own very thorough research/get a second opinion regarding anything you might be told. Then run all of this info past your naturally strong feminine intuition… feel how it feels in your body… tap into your innate yoni wisdom.
Sex and relationship coach, Kim Anami, suggests asking “What Would Vagina Do?” – whenever you need to make a decision about anything! Try it – it really works! Turns out our vaginas have plenty to say when we give them a chance to do so. That’s yoni wisdom right there!
If you do feel seeing a doctor is wise, it is good to know, as well as some fantastic naturopaths, there are also some truly awesome naturopaths and integrative/functional medicine doctors practising nowadays – basically, those doctors who weren’t satisfied with what they were taught in med school (dissatisfaction that often stems from the fact that the results they are getting are limited at best and disastrous at worst) and who took it upon themselves to do further training in nutrition, naturopathy (herbs & supplements) and sometimes also the emotional causes behind disease and imbalance (which actually underpins it all) as well.
So my first advice would be… choose your doctor wisely! Finding a naturopath or integrative medicine doctor who specialises in women’s health would be a good choice – as would finding a Traditional Chinese Medicine doctor (this, for me, is still the most well-thought out system of medicine there is).
Medical doctors to avoid are, unfortunately, still very much in the majority, however. And their arrogance and ignorance seems to know no bounds. Ancient folk medicine and traditions that have worked for hundreds of years are dismissed outright as “unscientifically proven”, as are nutrition and lifestyle-based cures for many diseases, including late stage cancer – despite the fact that there are countless stories out there of how these very same practices have not only worked for people, but have totally changed their quality of life, if not saved their lives (physically and/or emotionally-speaking). Yoni wisdom is given zero consideration – as doctors with this kind of outlook don’t know it even exists (and probably wouldn’t understand it even if they did).
Just because a medicine or practice does not have a scientific study to reassure us all that “it works because scientists say so” (regardless of the fact that the medicine in question – particularly with pharmaceutical drugs – has, more likely than not, got a whole string of “side-effects” associated with it) does not mean that we should dismiss it too. Scientific studies cost money – lots of it – and are usually funded by pharmaceutical companies or organisations that stand to make a lot of money from the successful approval of the drug/medicine being studied. There is clearly nowhere near the same amount of money to be gleaned from the approval of an ancient practice like yoni steaming, with its use of herbs (a natural product which therefore can’t be patented – and – the horror – could even be grown for free by the patient themselves!) – as well as its extraordinary results, which tend to keep women OUT of the doctor’s office and healthy and thriving instead. The same goes for yoni eggs and all of the benefits they bring. They’re just not good for business!
Modern science has brought us much welcome understanding and progress – but it is still limited. Science is a way of knowing but it is not the only way of knowing!
Other ways of knowing include:
- Experience
- Intuition
- Instinct
- Feelings
- Spiritual impulses
- Synchronicity
- Learning/Studying
- Contemplation/Meditation
A lot of which, as women, we are particularly receptive to. Our bodies know. We just need to learn to listen to them.
Nutrition expert David Wolfe has given his own explanation of how, in his opinion, Science has become distorted and has turned into “Scientism”:-
“Science is not to be confused with scientism. Science and scientism are deliberately obfuscated — they are purposefully confused. Think about it: in order to participate in Science these days, you need to belong to this club and that club, you have to believe in this and that, you have to have this educational degree and that university degree. Even if you have all of the above (as I do) and disagree with scientism’s beliefs (because your own experiments or analysis of experiments prove otherwise), then your Science is “not credible” or it is “unscientific” or it is “pseudoscience” or something is wrong with your education or you didn’t actually have those degrees or whatever excuse they can come up with in order to avoid facing contrary evidence.
Science and scientism are distinctly different, even opposed, ways of looking at the world. Scientism comes with a large volume of mechanistic materialistic beliefs. These beliefs are held in place by excluding contrary scientific evidence or simply ignoring contrary evidence. Meanwhile, the Science I know and love, and was educated to defend and utilise as a tool of learning, has nothing to do with “belief systems” and “excluding evidence.” Unfortunately, fundamentalist beliefs and exclusion of valuable data has become the norm today. So we lost Science and now have scientism instead.”
I think there’s a lot of truth in this.
In the sphere of women’s sexual health, there is so much misinformation being spread and experiential evidence being excluded at this moment in time. Why? Because the conventional, patriarchal medical system – or more specifically, Big Pharma, who run the whole show – have noticed the massive upsurge in interest by women starting to take the control of their own sexual health and happiness back into their own hands again (it’s probably the fastest-growing health trend at the moment in fact). And they’re getting desperate. Taking care of women’s sexual health makes up a large chunk of their annual income. And they do NOT want to lose that.
Thing is – their medical techniques are largely ineffective at best – and downright harmful at worst. A summary of the conventional medical practices for women’s sexual health issue, as detailed in my Yoni Love 101 ebook (sign up for a copy using the purple form to the right of this page), should give you a pretty good idea of just how dire the “solutions” that are routinely dished up for us, actually are. And none of them address the spiritual, emotional or energetic levels of healing that women both need and crave. And so… we are looking elsewhere.
Certain conventional gynaecologists have a real problem with this. None more so than Dr Jen Gunter – whose very loud public voice has spoken out about yoni eggs and yoni steaming (and, it seems, any other holistic sexual health treatment that is bringing women relief) – and yet, has no experience nor understanding of the basics of either. Most of the time she just seems to just read an article or two and then proceeds to hold forth as an “expert”. I already stood up to her on the subject of yoni eggs when she spoke out about them 3 years ago, informing her that quite a number of very well-respected gynaes actually DO believe in using yoni eggs (and, unlike herself, have had the experience of using them themselves too) – eg Dr Christiane Northrup and Dr Rachel Abrams, to name but two. Her response? “They are wrong and she is right”. Hmmmm….
For those of you who are interested, here are 2 articles responding to Dr Gunter’s particular brand of scientific, medical arrogance – one from a fellow gynae herself – which sum up the scale and scope of what we are up against when we choose to access our own wisdom and exercise our own discretion in using gentle, non-invasive, alternative healing practices to look after our (very sacred) sexual health and happiness. I don’t offer these in order to try and put another woman down – more of an example of how/why there is considerable reason for pause before entering the conventional medical system of healthcare (and of how this “patriarchal” medical system is made up of both men and women, so don’t be fooled by a gynae’s gender – that is irrelevant in terms of their understanding and the way they practice).
Open Letter to Dr Jen Gunter by Dr Jennifer Lang (both OB-GYN’s/gynaecologists)
Doctors Are Not Gods by Jennifer Block (author)
*NB – this second article was originally published in Scientific American, but was later withdrawn following pressure by Dr Gunter. I can understand her not appreciating its contents, but freedom of opinion should always win out against the evils of censorship.
As I have said before, conventional medicine saves lives. Lots of them. (And huge gratitude and respect to conventional medicine for that – especially to those overworked doctors doing long shifts in Emergency departments). But it also ruins just as many – particularly when it comes to treating chronic, lifestyle health challenges. Whichever health route you choose to go should always be the one that makes the most sense to you and brings you the most peace. But having the freedom to choose natural, non-invasive, holistic alternatives in order to treat our illness or disease should always be a basic fundamental human right – and no one else should have the right to try and confuse or mess with that decision by spreading misinformation or excluding experiential evidence. Women, in particular, have innate body wisdom/intuition that, once we get tuned into it, just knows what is best for us. And a lot of the time that “best” is found in the ancient, traditional ways of healing that our grandmothers and ancestors used. It is so wonderful to see women tapping into their own yoni wisdom and reclaiming these ways of healing once again – because only by learning to listen to our bodies are we able to access the deepest levels of healing we so need and desire.
If you are interested in learning more about holistic sexual health tools and practices, be sure to fill in the purple form to the right of this page and receive a free digital copy of my Yoni Love 101 ebook. This is also a great way to stay informed about when my Yoni Vitality programme opens again for registration – a gentle, guided journey, addressing all aspects of our sexual heath and happiness.
I look forward to meeting you on that journey.
Postscript – February 2023… And then, for those of you who might already work with women and wish to add holistic sexual wellness to your current list of offerings – or if you feel drawn to do so as a newer calling in your life – be sure to check out my Holistic Sexual Wellness Facilitator Training Programme, which runs once a year and is currently open for registration.
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