It is always fascinating to me how much time and money gets spent on all kinds of aesthetic self-care but so little on our not-quite-so-visible sexual self-care – the importance of which has, up until recently, been so seldom spoken about.
At one time it really did seem like the “hidden” taboo subject of our sexuality and its care was destined to stay hidden forever… but fortunately things are changing – and changing fast!
In the past 10 years, there has been a major upsurge in interest in “all things Yoni” – yoni eggs, yoni wands, yoni steaming, yoni paintings, yoni sculptures, yoni gazing… the list goes on! So why now? Why this massive turnaround?
The simple reason is… “it is time”. The entire universe continues to grow and develop in perfect timing… and sexuality’s time has most definitely come (pun intended).
But looking in more detail, it seems 2 things are very much behind this increase in sexual self-care – one is that women are realising the importance (and joy) of prioritising their sexual pleasure and are more than a little curious and attracted by the reconnection to their bodies and the transcendent, connected states of being this prioritising can take them into. Whether they have a partner or not.
And, secondly, women are well and truly fed up with the extremely poor sexual care options offered to us by the conventional medical industry. We’ve had enough of having our body parts removed or being put on the pill or other drugs as some kind of a “solution” to common sexual/reproductive health issues. That’s not a solution, it’s barbaric! We’re also tired of the highly questionable “procedures” being offered for, for example, things like stress incontinence – where the options are either painful (and often ineffective) laser treatment or having a “bladder sling” made out of plastic mesh that has broken down or embedded itself in organs and tissue, causing unthinkable, debilitating pain and discomfort. (Just Google “bladder sling” and “surgical mesh” to discover the living nightmares the surgical mesh used for such slings have made of so many women’s lives – and the slew of court cases that have ensued and damages that have been awarded – finally leading to this ridiculous procedure being banned). And that’s just one example of badly thought out and highly questionable medical procedures for women – the list is long. And enough is enough!
(Just for the record… when I rail against the “conventional medical industry” I most definitely do NOT include those functional medicine doctors who weren’t satisfied with their conventional medical training and, therefore, took it upon themselves to educate themselves further – and look for solutions that DO work, even if these are outside of the norm. These amazing men and women are doing an incredible job of integrating natural medicine along with their conventional medical knowledge. To me, that is a beautifully balanced approach. There are, without doubt, many times when drugs and surgery have saved lives. But the extent to which they are used and the damage that they do as a result of being used unnecessarily is inexcusable – and they seldom seem to have a part to play in chronic lifestyle conditions such as women’s sexual health issues, which require a far more sensitive and holistic approach).
But, as always, the power is in OUR hands to change this story around. In the West, at least, we have full sovereignty over our own bodies – but we need to claim that. The hard facts of the matter are that women DO suffer from regular sexual health issues – the root cause of which is always emotional and emotions around our sexuality run very deep. But with an awareness of a few basic health principles and some consistent, committed time dedicated to various holistic sexual self-care practices, I believe we can avoid most, if not all, of them. These tools and practices include yoni steaming, yoni eggs, yoni wands and breast massage – as well as a myriad of other lifestyle practices of both a physical and emotional nature – eg meditation, diet, supplementation, exercise, healthy sleep patterns and making plenty of time for pleasure… to name just a few.
There is no such thing as a victim – and we can empower ourselves and take back control of our own bodies by doing a thorough assessment of our overall sexual health and then creating a holistic sexual self-care programme to lead us back to optimal sexual health and happiness again.
If you are interested in reading more about how to set about doing this, you can get a free copy of my beautifully illustrated and informative ebook – “Yoni Love 101 – A Guide To Holistic Sexual Self-Care For Women” – by filling in the purple form to the right of this page.
Because – Awesome, Powerful Women – It Is Time… ♥